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Originally Posted by Tauren
Can I offer an outsider's perspective? My BFF has this disorder, and she thinks she's empathizing too much when in actuality she is not good at reading other people's emotions at all. She takes what she is feeling and projects it onto them. It causes her to think people are putting her down when they're not talking about her at all, and it causes a lot of weird little misunderstandings. Like one time she told me I had to stand up to someone and tell them not to judge me, and I was like, "Huh? Judge me? Why would they judge me? Why would I care if they did?" Took me a while to understand that she was the one who felt judged.
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I hear what you're saying. While I think there are
definitely times that I project, more often than not I am hitting the other person's emotions right on the head. I know this because I'll usually say/ask them something along the lines of, "Are you feeling this XYZ way right now?" Or, "Does it seem this ABC way to you?" or some such thing and the person will be like, "Oh my God, YES. You literally took the words out of my mouth!" or "I couldn't have said it better myself" or that sort of thing.
I have zero-tolerance for BS so I don't involve myself with people that would agree with me for the sake of agreeing. The people in my life, if I "got it wrong" would be like, "WTH? No!!" (Thank God: "yes men" drive me nuts.)
Nevertheless, yeah, there are times I project or, at the very least, my paranoia gets the better of me.