I immediately thought about the involvement with the kids thing too. I'm so glad I wasn't alone in thinking that. Spot on.

That is just one more indication her head isn't on straight. Meeting her children is one thing, that you would be involved is another. That is not showing on her part any forethought and ability to prioritize, ability to respect, nor make appropriate choices.

Consider youreself fortunate to have escaped what could have been a great deal of drama in your life.

That, however, does not negate the feelings of sorrow, devastation, and grief you are feeling right now. You DID fall for this person. You HAD found a place in your heart for her. You WERE attached to her.

My suggestion is to get active - yes, get out of the house and do something. You need to fill that gap that was created when she left you. Talk to people - not just us but try to find someone to confide in. Change up your routine - that too will fill the gaps. And finally - this is from personal experience - try not to fall into the trap of feeling guilty. YOU did nothing wrong my friend.