Sunrise, I have heard of states with a waiting period, but mine doesn't have that. I feel better about the timing of my situation today. Probably that's because I'm still experiencing the post-T glow. Sometime when things are painful for me I rush to get through them to get to the other side. I'm sort-of the reverse of a procrastinator. I'm going to try to be careful during this whole thing to take the time I need. I think my issues are less about figuring out and settleing things between me and my husband (assets, debt etc) and more about working with T to rebuild and rediscover who I am and who I want to be. I know that you have more complicated things to work through with your husband regarding children, so I'm luckly that I don't have children to think about.

I haven't had time to look at the book you recommended, but I did look at the website last night. You are right the forums don't seem to be active and aren't very user friendly. I've scanned some of the articles.

I too get sad when I think about not having my husband to grow old with. I always liked seeing older couples taking walks together holding hands or sitting in a park. I wanted that.