As an avoidant, what are some things people do (the way they treat you) that make you love them for it. Or what are traits in other people that you like.
Because I'm soft spoken I like it when people lean in to listen to me instead of telling me to talk louder.
I like it when people come up to me to talk other than trying to have a conversation across a room in front of others.
When I'm depressed I love it when people show me quiet sincere concern and give me space rather than singling me out about my mood in front of others or try to change it by saying 'It's not that bad' or telling me to smile.
I worked with a lady from Asia a couple years ago who was reserved. She was very sweet and she would talk to me. When my helper pointed out she didn't talk to him, I was flattered. It made me feel really good that she thought of me as a safe? person to talk to, or anyway, for her I was approachable- because to so many people I am not.
I'm such a 'less is more kind' of person. And I love, love, love sincerity.