Thank you JulieBean and Peanut,

I really needed to bounce this issue off on someone. Right now I am trying to figure out what I want in my social life. It is difficult because I have not really given much thoughts to my needs. This is a new experience for me. I usually consider the feelings of others, even at the expense of my own.

Recently, I realized that if I allow people to engage in selfish or unsafe behaviors around me I am hurting two people -- myself and them. Because allowing people to take advantage is to encourage unhealthy behaviors. I think that it is not good to encourage people to do wrong. The offender may not understand it now, if ever, but at least I am not aiding and abetting in dysfunctional behavior.

Oh, I just want to get on with my life before I get too old to enjoy it...

GraceD