Well yes this is a tough thing to be involved in, and often misunderstood. Well first of all I have a son who all his life has been very comfortable wearing clothing that is very feminine. And as a young adult so did his father. It is a form of expression that needs to be respected and left as just that, thinking to deep about it might actually complicate things for you more. I think your husband needs o know that you love and support him in anything that make him happy. It is really unfortunate that society has put a stigma on men who like to dress in womans clothing. It makes these men very weary of themselves and confused. It is great that you are seeking out support because it will help you better understand your husband and help you guys grow closer if he thinks he can share anything with you and you love him anyway. Just try to not make this a personal thing and it will help you through this as well. There are many men in the world who can dress like a woman and still be madly in love with there wives. Peace to you and good luck.