App, I will not completely help on this as I didn't read your entire post, however, I have some insight. One it is not usually to get involved with a friend, not unless, it wasn't a "true friendship" to start with. Two after you have made love to a woman, it is hard to go back to just being friends. Talk it out, stick it out and see where it goes; you are both emotionally invested now, don't bail now. Communicate your thoughts, feelings and needs and listen to hers. I have tried to go from friends to relationship with a friend and I was glad she didn't want to because I was losing site of her personality traits that turned me off when we met, we were friends for a while. Then she came back with her true self and it got ugly. So just talk to her and don't run.