i was wondering because you called it a 'fetish'. a 'fetish' is when a person has a sexual response to something like a shoe or womens clothes... i wasn't sure whether your husband told you that he found wearing womens clothes to be erotic or whether you figured it must be an erotic thing because of something that you read online.

because people do it for different reasons, you see. for some it isn't erotic at all (hence doesn't constitute a fetish) for others it is erotic (hence does constitute a fetish). i wasn't sure what was going on.

sounds like there are greater pronlems in your relationship (lack of sex). have you talked to him about this? it might be the case that you guys could benefit from couples councelling or something like that.