Nope. None at all. But, I suspect it strongly depends on your relationship with your parents, and how connected you are.
I come from a very disconnected family. My mom told me once that, by the time I was 9, she figured my "morals were set" and she didn't need to do anything (i.e. she stopped parenting). During the divorce, my father cashed out my college fund (i.e. made up mostly of birthday and Christmas gifts from my relatives) and shortly thereafter, kicked me out of the house. The last time my sister and I gave him money (he lost his job), he moved and changed his phone number without telling either of us.
Growing up, both of my parents made it very clear that they prioritized their romantic relationships over parenting. I had trouble when I first started therapy trying to explain to my therapist that I honestly don't remember having *any* conversations with them, just being occasionally yelled at. I basically lived in my bedroom, as if I were renting a room from strangers, so it's difficult for me to imagine when friends tell me that they "lectured their kids" for example.
Sorry for the long rant, I'm still figuring it out. But, I figure my parents are adults, they can take care of themselves. No guilt here.
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