I had an emotionally abusive father and my therapist is male and SO gentle that the transference is incredibly intense for me--to the point of being painful. The longing to be with him coupled with the knowledge that I'll never have a relationship with him outside our sessions literally hurts my heart. I don't know whether I should stop seeing him or not--or if I do if that will just give me a horrible sense of losing out on a caring paternal figure all over again? Would that traumatize me even further?