I am a 24 year old bisexual female who has never been in a relationship. I am currently seeing a guy (not officially my boyfriend yet). We have been on 3 dates, and there is the expectation on both sides that we will have more. I feel a sense of mutual respect and admiration.

Since I have never been in a relationship before, I don't know how fast things are supposed to move in terms of physical and verbal affection.

On our last (3rd) date, we held hands. I initiated the hand holding, but he seemed to really enjoy it. That is the furtherest we've gone physically.

I don't feel ready to go "all the way" with him yet, but I would like to kiss him. Is it weird that we have not kissed yet, after 3 dates?

He is a very reserved, thoughtful guy. It's kind of funny, because he will wait until there are literally no cars coming before crossing the street, even if a car stops and waves him forward. He is very polite and kind to me, and treats me with a lot of respect. There is something really wonderful and soft and feminine in him that I really like, but I think it may be stopping him from being a little more aggressive physically.

Could his personality be why he has never initiated anything physical? He is afraid of harassing me or making me feel uncomfortable, so I always have to make the first move?

I am very bad at reading body language, so I have no idea if he has been giving me verbal signals that he would like to kiss.

He has never given me any verbal signs of affection either-no compliments or anything.

Should I ask him on our next date how fast he wants this relationship to move? In case he wants more too, but is afraid that I don't? Would it be acceptable to ask him to kiss me? I know it would be awkward...