My sister is 13 years older than me and my brother is 11 years older than me.
I've lost count of how many times I've been told that I was a mistake, not wanted, ruined everything....etc
When I was a kid, it bothered me, but now when I look at my sister (many abusive relationships) and brother (can't hold down a job), I realize that I am the only kid in the family that accomplished something in life