Nah, lightbulb moments are important. You're not alone. I can very much relate. I've never cut. The thought freaks me out. And that's the one you always hear about, right? So I never saw anything I do as SH.

So yup, there's me, not thinking of hitting and biting as harm(!) Because they're oh so very healthful, right? I think maybe because it wasn't that I had harm in mind. Nothing deliberate about it. No premeditation.

Apparently, that doesn't let me off the hook. It was news to me. And you're right, it seems ridiculously obvious, yet it was not(!)