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Originally Posted by TDKeller3
I am very sorry you are going through this. I lost my mom to Breast cancer when I was 17. I also have 3 younger siblings the youngest of which was 9 at the time. I know each situation is different, but some things I wished would have been different in my situation were honesty, I wish I would have known exactly what was going on from my parents and the doctors. Having a better understanding on what is going on can make you feel a little more in "control". I wish we would have celebrated her life more, every single day. Trying to make the best of the time you have left and making good memories will make things a bit better. Get involved. In relay for life in some type of walk/run, find people who are in the same situation because support is the best thing to have. Also, never keep you emotions locked away. Speaking from experience, it is the worst thing to do. Cry, scream, get mad, you're allowed to.  When the time comes, you will find helping others will help you "heal". I have found this to be true becoming a nurse. All I have suffered has led me to be a more compassionate, caring, empathetic (almost) nurse. He will always be with you, cherish these last days.  |
I have always been involved in things like relay for life and fundrasing for the cure for cancer. I am lucky in the way that he (my brother and my parents for that matter) do not keep anything from me about his health, condition and what is happening and where he is at with it all. but @ the moment it is a constant battle between myself and my parents. My brother wants to stop treatment because it is not helping him, he will not go into remission and it is making his quality of life very very poor. I can not even pretend to understand how hard it would be for my parents to know they wil loose their son but I just can not understand why he must continue to be put through so much pain and suffering with medication that is not working and only making him sicker. But he wont stop because my parents ask him to just keep trying, He is old enough to be able to make his own choices medically but yet he feels obliged to continue suffering more then he needs to just in case that .01% chance it might give him more time and in his words "too many hearts will break if i stop" but I am of the belif that it shouldnt be about our hearts breaking, it should be about him. at one point or another our hearts are going to break regardless, so why not let him enjoy what little time he has left. and of course my opppinion upsets my parents. I just dont want them to be mad and i dont want him to suffer. is a pitty you cant have it both ways.