Oh my dear Siren, I wish I could say I had an answer for you but I don't love. I know sex is important in relationships, especially a marriage but it isn't the key to intimacy and a long marriage. I am not going to venture how long you have been married or assume an age. Take the pressure off of both of you, spend some time together, something will bring that spark back to life. I am not telling you to give up just change things a little, talk to your husband and go from there.