Trust me when I say you don't want to get into the habit of putting on a mask and just pretending. It doesn't work in the long run, and it only causes more problems than it solves.

This is part of my problem now. When sex started to get less and less enjoyable for me, I put on a "sexy mask" and pretended to enjoy myself (though I've never faked an actual orgasm). I wanted to make my husband happy, so I pretended to enjoy things more than I actually did. I pretended to be turned on, or put on a sexy face and act sexy to get him off.

So now that we're more 'out in the open' and talking about our sexual dysfunctions, it's hitting him harder because he didn't realize that anything was wrong.

I can relate with not knowing how to express yourself. The only suggestion I have for you is to try writing a letter. I find that if I can get everything down on paper (or in my case, on a computer since I'm a fast typer and I hate to hand write), then I have a chance to review everything, change wording and phrasing, and really let it sink in and consider how it will sound to hubby if I were to read it to him. I've never actually read him one of these letters, or let him see them even, but it helps me to plan a conversation so I know what to say and how to say it.

Hope that helps.