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Originally Posted by rcat
[I admit I haven't read all the responses]
You've heard the adage I'm sure 'you want what you cannot have.' Is it perhaps the experience of the persuit that is the attraction?
If you really do love this woman - which is wonderful - patience is golden. There are proactive things you can do too. Have you had a sit down yet and discussed her mental health challenges? What about discussing your own thoughts and dreams? Showing interest in her will go far. Include her in your life and she may include you in hers, ex. I'm going to such in such, do you want to come along? Be careful though that you stop short of her looking at you as merely a confidant. Of course, there is always honesty. Ask her out.
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I include her in as much as I can, to the point that she almost gets fed up with me asking "do you want to (insert activity) with me?" I have told her how I feel, and it always gets met with distance. If I said "the L word" she would probably never talk to me again. I she knows that I have very strong feelings for her, but never gives any indication of how she feels about me, except that she sometimes wants to hang out (lately only if she needs something done around the house), or sometimes she won't talk to me for days. She knows my issues, and I know hers. She knows how I feel, but I have no clue how she feels.