I think that expecting any kind of commitment after 3 dates is unrealistic. With the woman I am dating now, I honestly didn't know how I felt about her after only 3 dates! I was still very much in the process of getting to know her, assessing my level of attraction, and trying to determine what my own feelings were. I did not immediately feel a huge spark or know right away that I wanted to pursue a relationship with her. I liked her enough to commit to asking her for another date, and nothing more. And each time I have seen her, my feelings have grown. Now, after 7 dates, I am sure that I like her and want to see where this going. But if she had asked for a commitment after only 3 dates, I would have had to say no. I didn't know her well enough yet and my feelings had not developed yet. So, if she had asked too soon, it may have ruined everything. With us, she asked on the 6th date if I was seeing anyone else also. I said no; she said no. So we established that we are only seeing each other in order to give this a shot. I could probably get away with calling her my girlfriend at this point, but I still don't know that we are official yet. Ive met her daughter as her "friend" only, we have not had sex yet, and we are not fb friends yet!