What I learned is:
1st - It's my life and I do not have to live by anyone's book of shoulds... this helped me a lot... I did not lead a "typical" life and now I understand it's OK - I constantly thought I should be doing what others were - I set my standards by what others were doing or not doing - wrong wrong wrong.

I stop living for goals... now do not take this wrong - I'm pretty sure I had the wrong goals for me. Only if I had a better, car, job, significant other, was thinner, prettier had better clothes, finished college, had children then my life would be good. - Nope - wasted a lot of time trying to do that and feeling like a failure.

As I started getting older.... I learned to make a point to looked at what was making my life good or what made me feel positive ON A DAILY BASIS... not always easy. If I did nothing more than watch a movie that meant something to me - it's was good. If I just heard my favorite song.. it's good. If I got dressed, brushed my teeth and spoke to a good friend on the phone - it was good. If I needed a day just to chill and stay in bed cause was not feeling the best ... it's ok... the bad thing is to stay in that bed too many days.

I have had great jobs and really bad ones. Many times I felt a sense of accomplishment for what I was doing... my trigger was working with or for people I lost respect for.
You can have the best job in the world and co-workers who you have a hard time working with and hate going to work for that reason.

The journey counts just as much or more than the destination. The destination may not be what you thought it would be.

Adapt and learn to enjoy what you can the best you can.... whatever that may be.

Plus medication did help me with anxiety and depression - those were holding on so much that at one time I could not see life for the better