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I have never been a parent. I have witnessed some of my friends go through this with their children. I'm sure many times things were said and done without knowing how it felt for you... unless it was malicious. I would try and forgive them in your own head. You will make mistakes with loved ones as well. It happens.
I remember telling my brothers later in life how much they hurt my feelings by what the said or did to me.. I loved them so much and could not understand why (now I know they were following my dad's lead).. anyway.. they both were very very sorry and said so. I will never forget that.
If you need help sorting out some bad things from your past, you need to take care of that with the help of a professional. I hope things were not so bad that you continue to hurt. Take care!
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“A person is also mentally weak by the quantity of time he spends to sneak peek into others lives to devalue and degrade the quality of his own life.” Anuj Somany
“Psychotherapy works by going deep into the brain and its neurons and changing their structure by turning on the right genes. The talking cure works by "talking to neurons," and that an effective psychotherapist or psychoanalyst is a "microsurgeon of the mind" who helps patients make needed alterations in neuronal networks.” Norman Doidge
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