I don't know if you were asking me or misskeena, but I do not think the dating site is at fault. I met my girlfriend online! I do not think anyone is at fault. I think finding the right partner requires BOTH parties to feel interest. If these men are not interested, then you just have to keep looking, keep sending messages, until you find someone who IS interested! It's hard. It takes time. I was single (and going on bad dates) for 2 years before I met the woman who I am dating now. I sent tons of messages (and received tons of messages that I wasn't interested in-- an went on a gazillion dates that sucked-- before finding just that ONE person that I clicked with.