My GF developed a serious case of can't standing my mother for a number of reasons that mostly only exist in her mind. She'll take any situation and exagerate it x1000 so even the most inocuous thing will set her off and make things worse.

My mother on the other hand has her own flaws, one of which is being too controlling and she doesn't handle this well. She doesn't understand this falling apart and it makes her feel confused and sad. I can't talk to either of them. I can't talk to my mother as i myself can't agree with my GFs attitude on the most part, and if i would tell her any of the things my GF says it would just make her even more confused and sad and probably bring things to the point of no return between them.

I can't talk to my GF as any time i bring ANYTHING related to my mother it starts a fight which generally goes through the "this relationship is going to end soon and its all because of your mother", plus i can't even try to mend things as she'll say i always take my mother's side - even if i'm only trying things to not escalate.

Its really tearing up both relations. My mom and i grow farther apart as she doesn't understand and she's hurt at me because i offer no explanation. My GF and I always get into huge fights everytime my mother is mentioned (well, at least, she does, i just stand there and say nothing because everything i say just makes things worse). In fact, she will many times go out of her way and bring my mother into some other discussion and it starts all over again.

I feel i can't stand it anymore. I feel like i'm building up on anger and frustration and while i try my best to keep my cool while i'm with either of them, i feel like i could explode at anytime. I try to think to myself that i'm not the only one that has this kind of issues, but i feel them very heavily. I try to make myself believe that things will somehow get better and mend themselves, or that at least i have to just give up on trying to make them get along. But its so hard for me.

And the thing is, this is just one of the problems in my current relatioship. I wish i had the backbone to just let it go. Sometimes i just want it so bad. But when push comes to shove, i just can't. I'm getting destroyed, but i can't.