mnmltek, I can relate very easily to your post. For example, I have constant, severe anxiety over worrying about my pets getting sick. I feel unable to cope with their suffering or death. In the past I have gone through the illnesses and deaths of some of my pets and it was so frightening and awful, I am terrified of having to go through it again.

DBT is a little bit helpful. I like kaliope's meter. Watching my breathing is important. Medication really helps. But yeah, overall, I have the same questions you have about coping skills.