my opinion is that if someone has you on ignore to remember that its about them not you and to not try to contact that person through visitor messages or pulling other members into the situation by asking someone else to do it for you. bottom line is that any contact is triggering for that person for the moment. I personally would not want to be responsible for causing another person or possibly two pain just because I may want to say im sorry about something I may not have even done. I say two people because how you you think a person being triggered by say seeing someones user name is going to react when member B includes that user name in their contact? its going to trigger then and thereby cause the person to put the second unsuspecting member on ignore. the same with visitor messages, sure someone on ignore can go to a persons visitor page and post but whats the outcome...the person can delete that off their visitor page and close their visitor page so that no one can contact them through that avenue. I have my visitor page closed for exactly this reason. i use the ignore feature then someone discovers they are on ignore that day and then they come and post on visitor page thereby causing me a trigger reaction the result turned off visitor page and put the second member on ignore for the same reason as the first person.

the ignore feature is there for a reason to protect ourselves from being triggered. I use it as needed to control my own being triggered. sometimes those I put on ignore are only there for one day and sometimes they are there permanently. but its about me and my triggers.

so my suggestion is accept that someone else is doing what they should do when visiting psych central...making sure they are in control of their own bodies and reactions and taking care of their self in what ever ways they need to, in this case using the ignore option when needed. if indeed you have done something wrong that member will at some point when they feel less triggered reach out to you and work out the problem with you.