i think everyone should just do what is right for them. No two people are the same so no two solutions for people will be the same. I think you just have to do what is best for you but i also think once you have decided that it is not ok for someone to continue to push you in a direction they believe is right for you. Often people only post snippets of what is going on for them and i do think when they ask people to stop pushing them it would be polite for said people to stop. At the end of the day you are the person who knows you best not someone online. I think sometimes there are boundries crossed here and as a result people get hurt yes you can ignore people but it is hard when you feel you are being attacked and cant defend yourself especially when that has been a problem in your past. I just think we could all be more respectful and open to new ideas and opinions sometimes.