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Originally Posted by Komfortable
It's over.
I regret not trying harder. This will be the one that got away. Maybe if I worked more she would have loved me and I wouldn't have had to leave. Maybe if I made more of an effort to show her my love she wouldn't have pushed back so hard.
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You've tried as hard as you could. It seems she just was stuck between shaking you off out of guilt or using you for her needs/loneliness. But she clearly doesn't have feelings for you and is very selfish. If you tried any harder she would've pushed back twice as hard, e.g. "stalker".
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Originally Posted by Komfortable
How do I continue to have a friendship with her sister, who is great and has really looked out for me through all of this. How do I continue to develop a friendship with her parents? They were awesome to me, and her father supports me in a way I can hardly explain. He always had encouraging things to say to me; I'm in the middle of a HUGE career change, moving into the field from which he just retired and he always had a tip for me, or the name of someone I need to contact. He is my "in," and in the line of work I'm going into, it REALLY all about who you know...and he was really high up.
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Keep the friendship with the sister, just back off the girl herself. Let the chips fall where they may- you're trying to rationalize staying in this. Her sister and parents may very, very well disappear due to the awkwardness. It's not your concern. Often ending things like this you're not just ending things with one person, but whoever they decide to bring with them. Try your best to be just as you were to the family, but if I were you I'd keep a distance for a few weeks to a month, just so the awkwardness dissipates.
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Originally Posted by Komfortable
I'm going to miss her so much, and if she misses me even a little, she sure as hell won't be telling me. That hurts.
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You're such a sap, I love it. lol
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Originally Posted by Komfortable
I what I meant by not trying hard enough was that I didn't try hard enough to be who she needed me to be.
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If you have to mold yourself into what someone else wants in order to win their affection and love, 1) they will never respect you and probably just feign to use you and 2) you'll be empty and lose all dignity. The right girl will love you for
you, and won't ask for you to change. It's kind of inhumane to have someone change to fit your needs. Also in line with dignity, try practicing quid pro quo. Painting/moving etc. are all specialty jobs. If you know how to do it, do it once as a favor, and if she seems to be using you, ask for some pay. That way she will know she can't use you, and move on to the next guy to use. Always aim to keep your dignity intact. If someone offered me Kim Kardashian in exchange for my dignity I'd turn the offer down in a snap. She knew she had you because you were lapping after her and eating up her every word. That's when women become users and manipulators. Let's be honest, how many women here have asked a guy to help them with their cars? A pretty smile can save you hundreds!
Hope you don't take offense to any of my tone, lol. I can be a bit brutal.
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