Yeah, that's what it was like with my exT (as well as with my first T, as far as I can remember - that was 13-14 years ago.) I did not think about what we said, at all, from the moment I left until I returned a week later. I never felt that our conversations were very meaningful and interesting, and she talked too much and gave me advice, very well meant I'm sure but never very useful or relevant.

It was almost a shock to come to current T and realise that therapy could in fact feel interesting and meaningful. And much of the therapy work I do now happens between sessions, without my T. He is psychodynamic just like exT, but neither of them presented a blank slate approach as I understand it. ExT was not at all incompetent, just a bad match for me. Do you think something similar could be true for you?