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Old Sep 09, 2015, 09:13 AM
missbella missbella is offline
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When a stranger injects herself into my self-reporting to diagnose and name call, that tells me, at minimum, my experience has evoked some strong emotion to impel her to assault someone she doesn't know. Though, since this communication "mimics" a therapist's style, perhaps the person believes their scalding evaluation is "for my own good."

The preponderance of generalizations I've read here support therapy and struck me as reproachful in the other direction. I've read many posts firmly expounding on how life or therapy work.

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Originally Posted by Ididitmyway View Post
I hear you because I've had similar experience of having been "diagnosed" just for expressing my not-so-mainstream views on psychotherapy. That said, I think, it's a little bit more complicated than just some people admitting that posts about harmful therapy ignites their fears. While it may be true for some, even for many, for many others hearing that therapy is nothing but fraud and should be unequivocally abolished invalidates their positive experiences with therapy or positive parts of their experiences that they don't want to dismiss or deny. The problem is that we don't want to hear each other. I understand how invalidating it may feel to you when someone diagnoses you for simply telling about your experience and how it shaped your views. This kind of diagnosing is disrespectful and insensitive and, as I said, I know this first hand, as I've been in the same situation. At the same time, please, understand that when you say how your posts ignite fears in others, this is also diagnosing. You may not have realized it so far, but you at times invalidate others the same way you've been invalidated. When you say about someone that your posts ignite their fears you are analyzing them, and, I know, you hate when someone does that to you instead of responding to the substance of your arguments. I hate that too, because, as we both know, analyzing others outside of therapy settings is an ad hominem attack.
Thanks for this!
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