I'm just curious, why should one even bother with true intimacy? When I say true intimacy, I'm referring to the traditional monogamous relationship that involves everything being around two people without any outside relations with other members of your preferred gender even if you communicate it to your partner.

While I'm not knocking intimacy, nor am I stating that I don't want any degree of it, I still think that putting absolute trust and faith into another person without leaving some wiggle room as a mistake. The way I see it, finding a lifelong romantic partner that makes you happy is about as rare as winning the lottery and thus, not worth going out of one's way for. Life is limited, therefore, I'm not willing to waste what limited time that I have on a gamble when I can achieve something more ideal. Maybe if we find a way to increase our lifespans to several hundred years at least, true intimacy would be something worth trying for, but with a 78 year average lifespan (at least in America), every year counts and I prefer to live in the moment rather than cause myself needless pain and lose out on potential short term happiness over a long term idealization that is unlikely to be successful, nor would be known to be successful until one is an elder.

I think it's wiser to shoot for a relationship that has some degree of intimacy but functions more like a friendship than a romance in the sense that outside relations with others are allowed as long as the members in the relationship are a priority and both people keep a degree of independence. My idea would be similar to a friends with benefits type arrangement but with more romance and intimacy involved. Not to mention, I think having sex with or sharing life experiences with only one person would get boring after so many years.

What do you guys think about this subject? Would you agree or disagree with my statement? Why or why not?