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Originally Posted by Luxion
Hi all.. this is my first post here by the way.
I have a problem with my wife to be, we just recently got a baby and we are planning on getting married. I love her a lot but because of the small fights we are having like on a daily basis, I am not sure about everything now.. I'm not sure if we were meant to be together or not. I'm not sure if we both still want to be together or not. We are not talking at the moment. Must I try and fix things or must I just let it go and try moving on
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Having a baby and planning for a wedding are huge life events and cause stress for both parties in a relationship. Why aren't you talking? Did she pull away or did you pull away or was it a mutual thing? I think its good to take a little step back for a day or two and then revisit the issues when you both have calmer heads, but if it goes on for a while, that's not healthy.
You are taking on a lot here, both of you. You both need to be patient and allow yourselves to adjust to the new one in your lives.
When you do start talking and if things even begin to get a little heated, you simply say "I'm getting upset now, can we come back to this in an hour or so? It's important to diffuse things as soon as they get heated. If it's something little and not that significant in the overall scheme of things, give in once in a while. Don't sweat the small stuff.