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Old Sep 09, 2015, 06:13 PM
SarahSweden SarahSweden is offline
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Thanks for asking questions, Iīm only grateful if I can get some clues to why I feel this way.

Yes, I get aroused and Iīm capable of pleasing myself. I donīt have any problems with that and I think Iīm fairly normal when it comes to those parts of my sexuality.

How do you think around this being a self-esteem issue?

You are right about that I to some extent fear intimacy and also letting my guard down. I donīt have any specific answers to why as I canīt remember any certain situation that could have made me feel what I feel about sex.

But in a broader perspective I see alienation in my youth, not having many friends could contribute to this feeling perhaps. Also that my parents split up and my mother talked negatively about sex. Not often but perhaps two or three times, like "being there for my father but not feeling she really wanted". It was though never any violent situations or such.

I got a bit worried and sad when reading that this will need a lot of work as I canīt afford paying for several years in therapy and I wonīt get that through the public health care either.

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Originally Posted by QuirkyGirl99 View Post
What are your sexual needs? Do you get sexually aroused on your own? Are you capable of pleasing yourself? The whole point of sex is to please yourself and your partner. It's two people enjoying each other, not just a one way deal. Most people (male or female), enjoy giving to their partner, sometimes more than receiving. Feeling like some kind sex receptacle sounds like a self-esteem issue, which needs a lot of work. I also sense a fear of intimacy and letting your guard down. Were you badly hurt by someone emotionally or physically?

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