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Originally Posted by I'm Worth It
Because "living inside" of yourself doesn't allow for enlightment. Living behind the walls of emotional unavailability is a dark place and no light can get in if you don't seek to talk to people and find out their view's, opinions, experiences, etc. Oftentimes, people who are emotionally unavailable are living with things, ideas, experiences and viewing them as if they are still children with limited understanding. They often get into a cycle of making the same mistakes over and over again because they don't have insight from other people which causes them to be more closed off and feeling badly about themselves. It just compounds itself.
Being able to open up and talk about feelings is liberating.
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I disagree with being emotionally closed off not allowing the potential for enlightenment. I have a high IQ and I'm a fast learner. When I need advice, I either ask somebody without involving emotions too much or I simply Google my issue and learn what I need.
If I need to talk about my feelings, I have an awesome small tight-knit group of friends whom I talk to, but I don't do this unless I absolutely need to. I don't need a serious intimate relationship for this purpose.
While it is true that I live a relatively isolated lifestyle and sometimes loneliness is a problem for me, ultimately, I would take the occasional pain that occurs from loneliness and the emptiness that I sometimes feel from being single over the pain from all of the work that is required to be in a successful relationship, pain from being emotionally vulnerable and at the other person's mercy, and pain from the eventual breakup because nothing lasts forever.
To me, finding a balance is key. I've spent a great deal of time planning my future and extensively weighing the pros and cons of each option available to me. Being single and relying on a small group of friends for my social needs and/or being in an open relationship or being a close friend with a woman is the better option when factoring in all of the pros and cons for me.