(((((((((((((( radioflyer )))))))))))))))

I know EXACTLY what you're talking about. I had similar with my ex (HS sweetheart...just wasn't good from get-go).

Anyhow, I do know what you're feeling and I was livid, confused, triggered. I guess, looking back (I didn't know it then), I was triggered to what I needed some kind of closure on. That he could make statements like that was a flat-out denial of MY existence of ME.

I was married (3-5 years I'd say) with another child (now 20 yrs in marriage) and wrote him a long letter. It helped me. He's still never said the words, "I'm sorry," but when I wrote the letter I literally went back in time and put myself in both our shoes...so young and ignorant to life, illness, etc. It doesn't make the things he did alright, but I knew I'd said what I needed to and he'd heard me. That's what I needed.

My ex changed too. It was confusing to say the least.

I don't know what you might need in this, but I do hope you find it. He'll probably never acknowledge what happened, but I hope you can find what you need without that.

Good luck, hon.

KD