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Originally Posted by Scrm0
I met someone with bipolar disorder and borderline...I really like her and she likes me as well, but its very hard to find out how to get closer, or how to handle her fluctuation. She's important to me, but sometimes she totally refuse me even if i just try to help, or want to speak something important. She has also have drug problems. I want to make her life better. I need some advice...please help me if you have experiences or any ideas. Thank you
I tried so far to dissuade her about drugs, but it's just made her angry, and our evening ended immediatley.
I'm trying to lead her back to her original profession, sometimes she accept my words, but mostly she grow sad.
I always highlight her good attributes, mostly she says: "Don't woo to me...i can't handle it"
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You're asking about dating someone who has a severe mood disorder, a serious personality disorder, and on top of that is addicted to drugs? Why do you want to "help" her? Are you codependent? You can't even begin to help her in a significant way. You can be there for her to an extent but that can lead to you getting damaged. But being attracted to someone like that may mean you yourself are somewhat damaged. I'd look within and start there. Let me tell you, if you're not aware, you'll be in for a world of hurt.
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