Thanks everybody for responding. T responded back to email saying she was very sorry for hurting 4's feelings and understands if we decide to leave therapy. But feels this a decision that should be made by adults not children only. ..think she meant as a system it should be made. We hand wrote a letter with explanations to how different things lately have been affecting us that she does and may have no idea. Told her the host isn't here to make a decision so we will continue but this has to be worked on. But 4 wants space right now. Will see how it goes.