Thank you for responding Bill3--

My fiance is fortunately not abusive. He is very weak at communicating non-negative emotion, which wears on me.

We have only talked about children in passing. Initially the topic came up about four years ago courtesy of his grandparents, and we agreed (in private) that we each wanted to be parents someday. At the time I may have been able to envision raising children with him, but at this point I cannot.