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Originally Posted by LeeTheBee
Hi all.
I've had depression about 8 or 9 years and in that the I have hidden away from the world and as a result of that I've not structured my life in any way. I'm 10 years behind everyone else my age.
Because I've been hidden away so many years, I've had no relationships. I've met girls, etc but not had anything like a long term relationship. The loneliness of this is killing me. My negative moods are being amplified by the fact I've been alone so long. I'm tired of feeling empty and alone. Depression is bad enough but with this it is so much worse.
It's not easy to try meet new people because that requires money and I'm usually broke. It also sucks because I'm living with a relative and that's a no go for mid twenties people seeking someone.
Anyone got any ideas? Any way I can take my mind off this ********? Anyone have any similar experiences?
Wouldn't even mind a few mates down here but a few years ago I moved away from the town where all my friends were and as a result I know nobody here.
Going out with family temporarily fills the void but I get depressed as soon as I'm back home alone. Truth be told, I want more than that but I'd be quite happy just hanging out at local pub.
This website is US based? I'm film the UK.
Peace folks.
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Yes I have had a similar experience, that was the exact position I was in when I joined here hence the username - a snapshot of that time. I met someone that was broke like me in what was temporary accommodation. We have since moved out and live together, the depression is mostly gone thanks to medication and my financial situation has improved. I still have no friends; the depression helped wreck any friendships I had and there is nobody left. There isn't much job security or tenure anywhere anymore so I need to carefully plan what next.
I have only got one suggestion for you: get the depression treated as best you can as soon as you can. Focus on improving your mental health and not on the sort of story the depression is telling you. That story may have some truth in it but it won't be as strong when you are well. I have always found my circumstances improved after I got out of depression. I think us depressives need to be reminded that the story is just a story and those thoughts of loneliness and sadness are just symptoms of the depression.