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Old Sep 11, 2015, 02:44 PM
JaneTennison1 JaneTennison1 is offline
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Originally Posted by Soccer mom View Post

Yes, I totally have the shame even though I know I can't help it. It is such a crazy feeling
I got this sense from your posts and I hope you can come to a place where you don't feel shame at all. Transference happens to a lot of people. No just in this kind of setting. Even in small settings. You feel how you feel, but you are not doing anything wrong.

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Current T. said to know it's not my fault but then the last session she got upset that I had seen another T. in May for advice and didn't want me seeing anyone before my last session with her. I wish she had said "I know this will be really hard for you. What can I reasonably do to make it easier". That probably hurts more than anything.
This is hurtful and probably a very good example of the validation you crave, there is no harm in needing some care and validation, these are not bad things to want.
Thanks for this!
LonesomeTonight