I think because i am such a pollyanna, so afraid to say anything negative to my t, that he will jump on even the slightest hint of disparagement from me, like its a freudian slip or something. Im always, oh no everything is fine its too scary to say negative stuff. With teasing you can always say "oh i didnt mean it". But did you? Sorry for the hijack - this is obviously a big issue for me. Thanks for the discussion jane