I met this guy Sunday at a bar. He was at one table with 4 other people and I was at a table by myself doing work. He kept looking over at me and smiling so I smiled back at him. As his table was getting the check he came over and asked if he could sit down. We chatted for a bit and then swapped phone numbers. He asked me if I wanted to come join him at his table while they were finishing up their drinks and so I did because I was wrapping up too. He introduced me to his friends and then we all walked out to the parking lot together. His friends were getting together that night, and he invited me... I probably would have gone too but his friends didn't end up getting together and I had to work that night.

Next day. He texted me about going for a hike because we had talked about it the night before. I told him my family was getting together so I probably shouldn't but he was welcome to join us for dinner. So he came over and met all the family. When things were winding down with the family I asked if he wanted to watch a movie. So we found something to watch but inevitably, we start making out. We make out for awhile and he pulls me on top of his lap. So we are making out still and he is not making moves to go further or anything, but we are both trying to figure each other out. He says it is up to me. So like an idiot, I just say, well the bedroom is that way and so we head there. Well you know what comes next. I asked if he wanted a condom, and he said that is also up to me. Well I know it feels better for guys to not so I said I didn't care and we didn't end up using one. Once wasn't enough so we had to keep going at it again. He wanted to make sure that I enjoyed myself so I felt all pressured to try and make sure that happened (which by the way guys, doesn't help make it happen, it actually helps to be more relaxed about it and let it happen naturally if it is going to and not worry too much if it doesn't).

So he got a text from his mom after and said she was probably going to wonder where he was so we said goodnight and he said he would text me.
He texted a lot even though I told him my phone was basically for emergencies only (I have a pay-as-you-go plan and it is an old school phone so it takes me forever to text). So he has texted a lot and wanted to get together a lot this past week but I had to keep telling him no cause I had school. I told him I could get together thurs night because I didn't have school friday. So he comes over and we watch a tiny bit of a movie then it's on to making out and more sex. Not that it is bad or anything, I just feel like now it is going to have to be like that all the time now. He is way clingy and great he is affectionate like that, I'm just not used to it. I ended up spending the night at his house last night and we didn't have sex there (his parents were there is maybe why? But then it's perfectly fine to do that at my house if my parents are home so I don't get it, but I was actually glad that we didn't. I got myself good and drunk just in case, cause I'm not really into that much sex all the time call me crazy).

We went to breakfast this morning and he is a real gentleman, holding my hand all the time, holding doors open for me, paying for things even though I want to pay my share (I don't ever want a man to control the finances, cause that is when they are able to start controlling me, and I'm all like - no thanks, saw my parents do that and it sucked so I'll take a rain check on that one). He also kisses me in public a lot which I am not used to. Like when we are waiting for things and what not. I'm just not used to it and it freaks me out. Maybe I'll get used to it? He is really nice and everything. I like him. Just moving way to fast for me. After breakfast we went for a hike and he wanted to hold my hand the whole time and hike next to me even though the trail wasn't a very big one. I finally had to just go ahead of him but he kept trying to squeeze by my side and I just let him know about that finally. I think it hurt his feelings though, but I need to hike without a guy holding my hand. I just do. It's a thing. He held my hand on the way back even though it was way hot and sweaty and I was very uncomfortable about it but didn't say anything. Should I just adjust? Should I just get used to it all?

I don't know guys. I met him Sunday. We are already spending the nights together and having to have so much sex I don't think I will want to do this much longer. That is when in retrospect, I should have been like no. I mean, the fact is, I didn't say no, so I must not have wanted to stay with this guy. If I had said no, it would have meant I respected myself and therefore, him, and that I would want to wait and see how things worked out for a longer time. But he is already making plans for us for next march. I'm freaked out!!! And he wants to spend a lot of time with me but I really want to focus on school right now. He is clingy and almost smothering me. Seems like mom has a pretty good hold on him too if he won't even hike alone because it worries her too much. He is 31.

What do you guys think I should do!? How do I tell him nicely that he is smothering me, or do I just back way off and distance myself without saying anything??