He is harsh...always has been. But, it has gotten so much worse in the last year or so. He is under tremendous financial stress and doesn't handle it well. Plus, my being as unwell as I was for as long as I was (and everything that went with that) has had a major impact on him also. I should have known from the start that he had potential to be so harsh. His dad is the meanest, harshest man I have ever known. But, my husband really is nothing like his dad in perspective. I love him very much and he has a good heart and he is good to me for the most part, he just really, really needs to get a hold of his tongue--that is the most hurtful.