Thank you. The only person who would intervene, I think, is my best friend. However, she has made comments rudely to him in the past as she is very defensive of me so he will only take her opinion with a grain of salt. They get along for the most part but she is very opinionated and they disagree about much.

I don't tell my mom everything he says. I am her daughter and I want her to love him like a son. But, he isn't a son so the same kind of unconditional love that is offered to me, whether she wants to or not, will not be offered to him. If she knew some of the things he said to me, it would greatly upset her. I am a parent, I know this. Beyond that, I do tell her SOME of the hurtful things he says to me and she usually defends him. She thinks they are mean and doesn't think he should say the things he says the way that he says them but she always tries to get me to see things from his perspective. With the overweight comments, she reminds me that he wants me to be healthy. This is true, he just doesn't express that well. With my illness, she reminds me how hard it is to see someone extrememly independent become dependent and on top of that, to see her entire persona and level of functioning change. It is very hard to handle, I would imagine.

My sister is a great ear, but she won't intervene unless it is REALLY bad. That is just her nature. That is my nature. That is the nature of my family. Things have gotten better as I have gotten better but when he told me that yesterday it just enraged me. Maybe it isn't that big of a deal, or at least maybe is SHOULDN'T be that big of a deal. But, he knows me and knew it woud upset me and he knows he should be keeping a committment to me. I am still holding out hope that he will change his mind. Like I said, he does have a big heart even though he is sometimes an idiot.