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Originally Posted by secretwhisper
I met a guy a few weeks ago, seemed sweet and lovely, we chatted a lot got on well.We met in hospital of all places though. Once we both got out we went out a few times and decided to try it as a couple. He was buying all the drinks and food etc despite me keep on offering to pay my share. Was sweet but like you I prefer to pay my own way. But within a week he was moaning that we weren't spending the night together...I'm not judging anyone who sleeps with people quite quickly but it's just not something I do or feel comfortable with. So that was a red flag for me really..
He apologised the next day and it was kind of ok but then a couple of days later he said he wanted out basically.
I feel like I've gone off point slightly...
I just think that it's important to get to know someone more before you get so involved. Like just going out for a couple of drinks and chatting, go for a meal, watch a movie etc And then if after a while you feel comfortable with him then you can start thinking about where you want the relationship to go...
That's just how I would do it anyway.
It just seems like you hardly know anything about him.
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That is great what you wrote and I think it is a better way to do things like that. I don't know why I can't seem to. Maybe I'm beginning to learn that as far as the first couple dates go - they should be to a restaurant or out for a couple drinks and chatting like you say. I find that if I go over to a guys house or if they come over to mine - if it is to "hang out" or "watch a movie" - it never seems to go well for me. I like the guy alright, just should have tried to set a few boundaries I guess. I think the guy means well. Maybe I just don't understand guys...
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