Welcome to the boards, amicrzy.

I'm sorry your wife hasn't been more interested in learning about ADHD and what it takes to treat it. That must be especially disappointing since she's the one who pointed out you needed to be diagnosed. I can only go by what you wrote, but it sounds like you've done all you can do at this point. If she changes her mind, you can try to see if she might take interest in looking at the actual hard research on ADHD (including the brain scan stuff), but otherwise it sounds like you're on the right track and yet she's failing to see it. I hope you have further people to talk to. That may become important if things get rough.