Sarah, Have you explored tantric sex. Look it up on YouTube. Look up the Kama Suthra. Sex with anyone; man, woman or self isn't just about insert, thrust repeat or what ever. It is about connection in body, mind and spirit. It can be both physical and metaphysical all in the same moment. Don't be embarrassed over your virginity, cherish it, when Mr. or Ms. right come along and fill your every need; watch out because it will be a hell of a ride. I have seen a woman have the "big O" in front of a group of people without even touching her self or anyone else touching her for that matter. What you can do with your mind and body is awesome, learn about it, harness it and enjoy.