I had a problem with predators when I first moved to my new town and was in the Oxford House, to the point where I was terrified. Now I have a boyfriend in AA and he fends them off.

Unsolicited advice, nosiness, bossiness.

What I am really mad at right now is there was a woman who offered me rides to meetings when I first moved to the Oxford House, but she never followed through. She kept cancelling at the last minute, which really put me in a bind. I had to attend 5 meetings per week as required by the Oxford House. So I found rides with more reliable people.

She keeps approaching me, claiming I never called her back about a ride. That is not true and I have the text messages to prove what happened. I have explained to her, twice now, that I texted her back but she cancelled. She denies it.

Wednesday night she did not pick up on the nonverbal cues that I did not wish to speak with her, like running away from her. She hunted me down and again, accused me of not calling her back. I explained to her again, what really happened. She said she doesn't usually do things like that then offered me a ride again. I told her I have a ride now. She is talking about something that happened 5 months ago, and I don't want to hear about it anymore.

I was only in the Oxford House for a month, it was such hell and I would really like to move on and stop running into people from the Oxford House or people who knew me while I was there. I am trying to get over all the bad things that happened there and I don't wish to be reminded of it anymore.

And I never want to see that woman again. I have been depressed for the past two days over it. She reminds me of my narcissistic mother and her church friends. It is just very triggering. Seeing those predators is triggering also.

I could go to other meetings in the area, but I never know which ones that these people will show up at.

Part of me wants to move again. A new area, with new meetings and new people. No one who knew me from the Oxford House. So I can move on.