Well that does make sense, though I've also heard of some 'stepping in' that sounds really excessive and stressful for the child. like 40 hours a week of intense 'act more normal' based therapy something like that I could see as being more detrimental. But I don't see much wrong with helping with things they struggle with whilst still letting them be a kid which from the sound of it is more what you do.

But yeah I have heard of treatments geared more towards making them appear more normal on the outside...and 40 hours on top of school or whatever else they do which I cannot help cringing at. Or treatments to stop/force behaviors that are either non-harmful in the case of stopping, or very uncomfortable with forcing. Like I have heard of autistic kids being forced not to 'stim' at all, when that is something that helps autistics process, reduces stress and at least in my case it seems to help me focus.

I have trouble with eye contact even to this day...but I cannot help thinking being 'forced' to make normal eye contact at all times as a kid would have been more traumatic than helpful. It's not as simple as 'not wanting to' it is very uncomfortable and almost painful also makes it hard to focus.

So I settle for that I can make more eye contact with people I know...and for new people or ones I don't know I can look towards them but not actually make eye contact. Basically as a kid I could have had people try and train that out of me...when really its not something that harms me or others all that much so there are probably more important battles to work on.