Hey just2b, I don't really have any advice - you seem a lot more knowledgeable about your system than I am of mine! But it sounds like you are so hurt right now, and I so feel for you ((((just2b)))). My T has really really hurt me in the past too. I am glad Ive stuck with him though. If it was me going through this, I would have two completely opposing thoughts on how to react next...

1) In the next session with your T, the hurt bit of you goes in to a sound proof room in your head, puts up a dart board with a picture of your T on it, and spend the next hour practicing your shot

2) In the next session with your T, try and get only the hurt bit of you to talk. Explain to the T that the texts/ emails she ignores all happen to be from you, and see if the two of you can work out why the T chooses to deal with your feelings in this way. It may be that she feels threatened when you vent and subconsciously protects herself by ignoring the more 'scary' messages? Or it may be that she is very consciously trying to get bits of you (angry/ hurt bits) to come to the session to talk about this stuff, rather than rely on outside of session communications? It would be interesting to know if she realises she is singling you out for this treatment? Its important she understands just how deeply she has hurt you.

Hope things start to improve soon x