We both sit on opposite sides of the table. I sit down wherever I want (which is always the seat closest to the door - not even because I want to be able to leave without interference, but because I'm embarassed to walk past that seat to another (Yes, I have shame issues ) so I sit down in that seat. Then she sits on the other side of the table. When T comes to my home (which is usually the case) we always have the same seats on either side of the kitchen table - she with her back to the window, me with my back to the kitchen counter so it's easier for me to make coffee.