Now that I am calming down you don't need to make me notice the age difference is huge anymore -- I figured out it is. Yes, even if I pretend not to care I know it is there and it is probably the biggest red flag, in my view it is beyond the fact of moving itself.

I don't find lack of "culture" a red flag instead. I do think education is important but I don't have the snobbery to tell someone's worth by his/her education. I do give a lot of importance to his ability and skills instead, he has been around the globe for a lot of years working hard, 10 years ago he came back to his native new england to settle down. Alone, but to settle down. When he was young he was rather wild, when he was around the world he experienced pretty much everything, he used to enter wrestling competitions (and winning many!), he is someone who seems to have lived an entire century... He went through his last divorce and after that he lived a couple of years like an hermit, then he moved to the island and he organized his life fishing/we charter boating during the right season and running this local oil/booze business all by himself or almost, he developed a layman knowledge in law reading tons of books because he knew that as he was not rich nor educated he had to know how to avoid problems and work properly. He built his shack and fishery with his bare hands. He might drink beer and use foul language but I have no doubt he is intelligent. He reads a lot about his interests, for instance pagan mythology. Maybe you are not impressed as I am because you are so lucky to have such tough, self made lads in your environments, but think that I never met one in my life. And plus, I don't know if you consider it important in a relationship, but I laugh all the time with him! He's so so funny, he tells things straight ahead, his vulgar loud laugh, it is enough to make me laugh. I mean it's so complicated to explain what you feel!

The whole thing now for me is not whether to move just for an adventure or not, my main problem is that moving in with him for me would mean I'd plan a family. I'd like to be a young mother possibly, so one of my fears is what if I decide to have children and something does not work? Can I bring my american kids back at my home? This is what worries me most probably.

My mother is obviously as worried (and angry with me) as I thought she would have been, she wants to save me from a relationship she thinks to be potentially disastrous (she can't see the charm of this kind of people: for her there is nothing socially acceptable in somebody like Captain Achab, she hates this kind of people who in her opinion live at the fringe of society). She told me you see his powerful charisma because you live with the parachute of the safety (financial as well) you know your family still provides you, you can't imagine how hard life can be out there with this kind of man. She thinks I have been pampered enough not to be able to live with a man like him and that when my novelty wears off I will be desperate with a man who (in her opinion) does not have the necessary skills to understand the needs of a woman like me, and that all I will notice of him won't be his being steely ice-blue eyed or anything anymore but the reek of beer around him. She thinks he sees me as a the great trophy of a seasoned seadog known in his own local lore, she says he will boost his ego when people will gossip about me being "young, smiling and flashily attractive", in her opinion he will treat me as one of the greatest trophies he sells (one of his activities is big game fishing and when he makes a great catch he gets it stuffed and mounted to sell it at sky high prices). She seems to underrate everything that is what I saw in his soul and in his values. This is all and honestly what she said.